How to Give your Partner the Right Gift
Giving gifts to your partner is not as easy as it seems. Many of us enjoy showing our love in the form of a gift. After much time, thought, and often money, you happily give it to them. Sometimes, things end up just as they do on the diamond commercials with a passionate kiss and expressions of love. But often, the giver is disappointed in the receiver’s reaction, and the receiver is either indifferent or hurt by the gift.
How is this possible in an otherwise healthy relationship? The answer: there are four different types of presents we give, and all of us has a preference to what we choose to give and what we enjoy receiving. It is vital that our spouse knows what type he is and what type we are, so that he gives us a gift that we appreciate and we offer him one that has meaning to him.
Lots of people love traditional gifts. These are the types of gifts that most people think of lovers giving to one another. A dozen roses, a spa gift certificate, or jewelry are all good examples of a traditional gift. They usually are expensinve type gifts. The traditional gift receiver feels valued by how much money the giver spends on them.
Some people enjoy sentimental gifts. Handmade gifts, a love letter, or dates created uniquely for the receiver are all examples of sentimental gifts. These gifts may cost money, or they might be free to make. What the sentimental gift receiver looks for is the effort and heart you put into their present.
Other people enjoy unseen gifts. This type of gift receiver prefer intangible presents. They would rather have the unseen devotion their partner could give them daily than anything wrapped. Unseen gifts include helping with housework, financially providing for them, or telling them how much you appreciate them regularly. This type of gift receiver values what you add to their lives daily to enrich it.
There are people who appreciate gifts having to do with their hobbies or life passions. Someone who likes running would enjoy a pedometer. A musician would appreciate tickets to see their favorite band play. A computer techie would love the latest and greatest gadget to figure out. A hobby receiver will value the gift on how well it will allow them to enjoy their passion even better.
By finding out what type of gift receiver your partner is, you can always choose the right gift and stop getting gifts that are unappreciated. For example, a gym membership would be the perfect gift for the right kind of hobby gift receiver, but it might hurt the feelings of a traditional gift receiver. Knowing your partner is key to connecting with them in gift giving and in so many other ways.
About the Author:
Would you like to find out what type of soulmate is best for you? Take Wendy Bridger’s “What is my Soul Mate Really Like?†soul mate quiz and find out for yourself!